Guys who are on the DownLow

It seems that in the 21st century there seems to be an epidemic that plagues our American society (not to mention African-American) and that has to do with sexual orientation.
The down-low has been exposed enough from books, movies, to even a topic on Oprah. It simply talks about those (mostly men) who pretend to be straight for acceptance when in fact they are gay or bisexual.

I’m not writing this to bash those people. For whatever reason they live in a world of fear. Especially in places like Africa and the Caribbean where people are killed for being anything but heterosexual, makes me feel hurt and disdain for what kind of world we live in.

However, In America , where we have supposed “freedoms” it makes no sense that people still feel like they can’t be themselves. People should be able to define themselves and not allow “the world” to define who they are and how they feel. All in all be honest with yourself. To thine ownself…be true.

4 thoughts on “Guys who are on the DownLow

  1. I equate it to the straight men who go and get a girl and cheat on their wives. It’s just an act of dishonor, a lack of personal integrity. If a man is gay and exclusively dates men but remains in the closet, no big deal in my opinion. But if a man is married and secretly dates men (or dates other women for that matter) then he isn’t a very respectable guy.


    1. I totally agree with you. It is the act of cheating that upsets people because most people have had their “in the closet” moments but the problems arise is when they bring OTHER people in their closet situations. good comment.

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  2. I didn’t realize down- low meant gay/bi and cheating. That’s just the sensationalized version of it, and it isn’t new or exclusive to men of color. And not all men can be “out and proud” without having to sacrifice family, friendships and social status.


    1. I don’t think it necessarily means they are cheating. Some might because they live a life of secrecy. But youre right. there are a lot of factors that come into play when coming out and it’s an issue that all men have to deal with who are gay or bi. But ultimately honesty is the best approach when becoming sexually involved with anyone. 2 cents _____________________________________________________________________________ NEW NOVEL:Heaven Sent: The Ring of Death is now available at


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