Gay Sex and Hookups

Okay time for a little “man to man” talk. All straight people cover your virgin eyes and ears.
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Okay so a viewer online wrote me to tell me that he was 22 still a virgin and thinking about um “giving it up” to somebody he met online to just get “rid of it”. Of course after reading his letter I was In shock
Never in my right or left mind would I EVER EVER EVER suggest someone experience their FIRST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE with some one they met online.
That’s like saving all your money to take a trip to Italy and the first thing you eat when you get there is a delivery pizza from Pizza Hut (30 minutes or less!) . To all those young gay virgins out there waiting to have someone awaken their sexual “urges” for the first time, save the online hookups for when you’ve had sex a few times and you’re bored.
Sure, gay or not…we’re all guys and we LOVE SEX. What makes us different from straight guys is that well…we can get more of it, anytime, anywhere, with who ever….There’s sites like adam 4 adam, My latin boyz, manhunt, and BGClive to name a few (not that I’ve been there or anything) *puts halo on*
Some are strictly cruising sites and some are social sites that guys will cruise but who knows someone may actually take you out on a date! (go figure!)
Here’s a few reasons why you DON’T want your first time to be an online hookup.

1. Being young you are a target: They are saying “Wow you’re hot” but they are thinking “Wow you’re young and dumb”

2. Liars: If it isn’t their age, then it’s their weight, or what they do for a living, or their weight (oh i said that) , their marriage, or worse, that little STD that slipped their mind (now do you REALLY wanna deal with all that on the first time?). The worst ones who either use old pics of themselves or pics of someone else.

3. No patience: Guys in hookup world don’t really care you’re a virgin and don’t wanna hear every detail about your life and whats your favorite color. A quickie on your first time…not the way to go.

4. Crazies: Before you even start trying to hookup with guys online or offline you need to develop a crazy detector. That is a few questions to weed out those who might not wanna stop calling your phone.

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5. Safety: It’s a dangerous world out there and before you jump out in the deep end make sure you know what to expect. Plenty of young guys get jumped, beat up, or even killed from going out on one night stand hookups.

So….

You’re still horny and what I said has only slightly deterred you. Okay, I get it….I’m not saying NOT HAVE SEX. If you want to have sex you’re going to right? I’m saying have sex in a controlled environment. It’s natural for young guys to want to sexually experiment and “sow their royal oates” just play it safe and go for what you know. My suggestion is to

FIND A FRIEND THAT IS CURIOUS ABOUT EXPERIMENTING SEXUALLY TOO AND SEE IF YOU TWO CAN FIND A COMMON GROUND

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But if you handle it right and keep a cool a head then your friend won’t be too awkward the day after. Honestly, guys handle casual sex better than females and I’ve been sexual with a couple of my male friends and we’ve really never said anything about it later (it just happened) and we’re still cool.
Here’s some tips:

1. Communicate: Find a friend that you can openly discuss sex with, that way he knows exactly what you’re expecting and you know what he’s expecting.

2. Make some rules: If you need to take it slow, let it be known, if you’re just curious about oral or just mutual masturbation, make it known! refer back to rule one.

3. Relax: keep it fun and not so serious. Grab a couple of beers, watch a movie, wrestle, make out… woo i got myself hot… on to the next rule!

4. Don’t change: I know I said sex changes things but you try not to be the one who gets weird. If you act like its no big deal, he won’t. Afterwards keep communicating and being cool.

5. Don’t do it more than twice: Once is cool, twice for perfection…three times is ROMANCE. threes the charm and not too many guys can keep on messing around with the same dude without some bond forming. NOW if it does, at that point you have to decide…. Do i wanna promote a friend to boyfriend? (thats a whole other blog)

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BUT

If you’re a 40 year old gay virgin you may need to get on adam 4 adam right now and take care of that because their is obviously a problem.

Happy Frolicking.

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3 thoughts on “Gay Sex and Hookups

  1. The 30 and over doesn’t do enough outreach to our younger gay male counterparts. I believe that many of our young brothers are just experiencing growing pains and haven’t had the kind of mentoring that straight kids get from their parents or from siblings. I try to do so when I can but I know I can do more, and each one of us can do more. We just need to be a coach, so to speak, and help them with developing some positive self images. You are absolutely right that they don’t want to have anonymous sex with some strange person they meet online. I’m sure many of them will look back and regret it if they do. Sex is great but having wanton sex can catch up with you. They should either do as you suggested, find someone they are comfortable with who they trust and can experience it safely with — or — invest in a couple of sex toys and engage in some self pleasure. If its done right, self pleasure can truly be gratifying, especially if the alternative is some stranger.

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    • You’re right Will. I read different forums and the younger generation has the benefit of mass internet communication but they are just talking to people their age. I think when they hear from the experiences of older guys it helps. And thats why I do…what I do….

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  2. Thanks for the advice dude. I read the blog and I’m going to wait. I can’t believe I was thinking about hooking up with some random dude. It’s just some nights I just get really horny. It’s like I’m going into heat but I know it will pass after a few storks, a cold shower, and a good night’s sleep. I think I going to get a sex toy. You know to help um…. Fill the void lol. Thanks for every thing dude you rock!!!
    ps- I’m so going to keep reading your blog it’s cool.

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