Valentines Day …and you’re Single

I  find it somewhat entertaining (at least this year) with valentines  so many of my single friends were in an uproar about not having anyone.  I saw more tweets, facebook statuses (is that plural? hmm)  and the like about how VALENTINES SUCKSPeople choosing to be bitchy than to just celebrate the day of love….even if you’re single. I’m not sure what valentines means for you. Perhaps some people need to have that one and only person to buy them any and everything and romance them like it’s their first date and they need to have sex before the world ends tomorrow they are the only person in the world. When people realize they don’t have that, they go into pouting mode like the kid that didn’t get any candy this year. I think we have to rethink valentines. It’s not just for couples. It’s for everybody to express how you feel about those you care about. If it’s that special somebody so be it. But if not, surely there is somebody else you love.

And I don’t mean yourself.

Yes that seems to be the alternative. I have seen tons of single people so upset that they have no valentines that they opted to just spend their time and energy on themselves. Now while I totally believe in self-love and if you can’t love yourself nobody can I do believe this is counter-productive.  Write a list of people that you love in your life (family and friends) . This is a holiday anyhow to focuse on YOUR love for OTHER people. Love yourself on your birthday…that’s what it’s there for (btw mines on March 7th FYI) …but I digress.

So you’re single . So what!

You’ve been that way all year and it didn’t bother you! I have seen sooo many single people online just wanting somebody to be with especially on valentines this should be like a buffet for singledom. Look how many people you have to choose from! I suggest, not celebrating singledom but celebrating love in a single person’s way (ie non-committal) this goes for guys and girls equally (cause girls tend to not want to give but only recieve on valentines…hmmm). Remember when you were young and you would buy those cheap cartoon valentines , tape some candy on it, and sign it and pass them out to your classmates? Of course you always had that special one for the kid you liked the most but you gave to everyone.  Why stop? If you want love…you gotta give love.  Instead of hording all your candy (ie love) for yourself… this year, pass it out to your random friends.  Send an email, text, post a loving video to their facebook wall and let them know that somebody…somewhere was thinking of them, and trust me that love will boomerang back to you. And who knows…maybe next year, you’ll be the couple that everyone hates 😉

One thought on “Valentines Day …and you’re Single

  1. I haven’t been single since 2006. But prior to that, being single meant nothing to me. As weird as this may seem, I had dates with myself. I’d go to the movies with myself, dress up and go to nice restaurants with myself, I’d get candles and flowers for myself and cook nice meals at home, have bubble baths and made myself feel special. I always tell people that when you focus too much on being single, you may have the tendency to let the wrong person have your heart because you may feel a desperation to find love. Like you said, so what if you’re single? Frankly, lots of people do not need to be partnered up. They need to be single to get their head and their lives together and shed some of the baggage they keep lugging around from one failed relationship after another. A little alone time to focus on yourself rather than being focused on finding a man is what a lot of people need.


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